JULY 28, 2024
Strategy 13:
Writing the Letter of Remorse
On this strategy, it focuses on one of the most emotionally vulnerable and misunderstood parts of parole preparation: Writing the Letter of Remorse. More than a procedural requirement, this letter is an opportunity to express accountability, empathy, and insight in your own words without excuses or deflection.
Strategy 13 – Writing the Letter of Remorse emphasizes that a remorse letter must come from a place of emotional honesty and maturity. It should clearly acknowledge the harm done, express understanding of the impact on the victim and others, and take full responsibility for choices made. This strategy cautions against using the letter to explain or minimize; instead, it’s about validating the pain caused and conveying a deep sense of regret that stands on its own. A strong remorse letter becomes a reflection of the internal work the applicant has done.
Notes
This strategy reinforces that remorse is not about words, it’s about emotional presence. The Board reads these letters closely, looking for signs of sincerity, ownership, and insight. Phrases like “I’m sorry” must be backed by specific understanding of how others were affected. Avoid justification or passive language. The tone, structure, and content all matter, and the letter should reflect emotional maturity and accountability.
Recap & Takeaways
Strategy 13 reminds us that a letter of remorse is not a formality, it’s a window into the applicant’s heart and insight. The most effective letters speak to the pain caused without making it about the writer. When done well, they show the Board that the individual has internalized responsibility and developed empathy. This strategy offers guidance on how to write from that deeper place of awareness, humility, and change.
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