MARCH 16, 2025
Strategy 29:
Remorse
Parole is not just about programming or staying disciplinary-free—it’s about transformation. One of the clearest indicators of this transformation is remorse. In this strategy, we explore what genuine remorse looks like, why it matters to the Board, and how it must be distinguished from regret, guilt, or simply saying “I’m sorry.”
Strategy 29 – Remorse emphasizes the importance of demonstrating a deep, heartfelt understanding of the harm caused by the life crime. The Board listens closely for signs that a person truly internalizes the impact of their actions—not just on the victim, but on the victim’s family, the community, and their own family. This strategy explains how to express remorse in a way that is authentic, specific, and rooted in understanding, rather than performance. It also warns against scripted, superficial statements that may undermine credibility.
Notes
-
Remorse is more than saying you’re sorry—it’s showing that you’ve grasped the depth of the harm.
-
Specificity matters: “I understand that my actions caused…” is more powerful than general platitudes.
-
Remorse includes accepting responsibility without justification or blame-shifting.
-
Emotional presence during this part of the hearing is often as important as the words themselves.
Recap & Takeaways
True remorse connects insight to impact—it’s where understanding meets the heart. The panel is listening for signs that you’ve looked deeply at the consequences of your actions, not just for yourself but for others. If remorse sounds generic, it may be interpreted as a lack of growth. But when remorse is expressed from a place of truth, it opens the door to healing—for everyone involved. This strategy is essential because it reflects the moral shift the Board is looking for.
Start Listening Today!
Each week, we break down a chapter from 36 Strategies of Suitability and explain why it matters.
